![]() ![]() ![]() The sense of the distance growing and the drift widening gets to you so bad that after a point you dread not just the impending loss but also the mere mention of it. Whether it’s you frequently cancelling hangout plans or your friends coming up with excuses of being unable to make it yet another time, the drift is very visible. Catching up will prove to be such an exertion for you that you would want to avoid it. Naturally with comfort levels declining and the awkwardness setting in with leaps and bounds, you won’t be hanging out with your friends the way you used to. Even casual hang outs seem like too much of a chore Your friends have ceased to be the ones in your life who knew you out and about, they are now mere acquaintances with whom you have long shunned rantings and have only managed to somehow do manage with small talk. ![]() It’s also as disarming that it strikes you that no longer are you the same people you once used to be. And it’s awkward not just in the lack of things you have to say. It’s not just the conversations that have run out of steam though, it’s also your friendship that is bearing the burnt of the awkwardness. You run out of topics to discuss on with the same person you had once chatted with for hours. Those conversations that once used to be so fun and natural now feels forced and mundane. And that’s obviously one big sign that you and your friends are drifting apart from each other. More often than not every thing you say and do feels so awkward because no longer do you relate and click the way you used to. Of course the lack of comfort and the associated uneasiness only means that you no longer are your nonchalant carefree self with those people who had been your best friends sometime. The comfort wanes down gradually and so does the trust and with it the friendship that you had once cherished so much. You think more than enough before blurting anything out just in case there might be repercussions. No longer are you as spontaneous as you had been in expressing yourself in front of them. Whatever the reason behind the comfort levels dipping down to all time lows or the uneasiness elevating to all time highs, it’s evident that you guys are drifting apart for sure. Or it might even be something more intuitive- you just don’t feel like sharing yourselves completely with them- and neither do they. It might either be the apprehension that perhaps your friends might not be the right people to let in on with your secrets. Over the years you might have become a bit wary of letting all your thoughts find free flow in your talks. Naturally then the most tell tale sign of when your friends start drifting away from you would be a sense of uneasiness creeping up in the relationship. In fact it is this comfort that you find in the togetherness that allows you to be completely honest and at ease with each other. You harbour a bond that goes way beyond judgement and bickering. Your closest friends are the people you are the truest with, there’s hardly any secret between you. Very few relations you build in your life will be based on the premise of non showy unpretentiousness like friendships are. ![]()
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